Attitude Matters

Grief and attitude are two different things. It is important to distinguish between the two in order to begin taking steps toward a future after losing a child. Grief is the broken hearted place of loss, irreparable and empty. Attitude represents the way in which we take our loving memories and fill the cup of spiritual connection as we move along the altered path of our daily lives. -M.A.

Dr. Masaru Emoto has conducted thousands of experiments with water crystals showing that the mind's attitude affects how water crystallizes when frozen. In one example Dr. Emoto put water from the same source into two bottles. He wrote the words "You Fool" on a label and taped it to one of the bottles. He wrote the words 'Thank You' on a second label and taped that label to the second bottle.

Dr Emoto then froze the water from each bottle and photographed the crystals that were formed using a microscope and camera. The result was that the crystals formed from water taken from the bottle with "You Fool' on it were grotesque and misshapen. The crystals formed from water taken from the bottle with 'Thank You" written on it were beautiful and symmetrical, like snowflakes.

"We must assume it wasn't the printed words that influenced the water; it was the minds of the people who wrote and read the words. We know that because the symbols on the labels were just ink stains on a flat surface with no meaning except to people; the writer's and reader's minds created meaning from the ink marks." (1)

These experiments have now been performed many times using different sources of water and different treatments. In all circumstances, when a loving, compassionate, gentle attitude or melodious sound is focused on the water, beautiful crystals form when the water is frozen. When harsh, depressing, negative, hateful attitudes or cacophonous sounds are focused on the water, the frozen crystals are misshapen and grotesque.( see video of crystals and commentary)

Our minds influence our physical world. The journey we face after the loss of a precious child begins in a very dark place. This darkness can appear at various times throughout a day, a week, or an hour. Lighting a candle in our hearts to shed brightness into this cavern of darkness is a healing analogy synonymous with 'creating' our own beautiful crystal of thought; linking us to all that is good.

The energy of our soul communicates through vibration. Making time each day to foster positive loving thoughts will create beautiful crystals of connection and love. This is the definition of prayer/meditation.

Consider taking time to create a beautiful crystal of thought and send it to those you love both in heaven and on earth. -Marsha

(1)Craig Hogan, author of Your Eternal Self

Our Children Are Not Lost

Choice of words can be a sensitive subject to grieving parents. The death of a child is often referred to as 'losing' a child. The 'D' word is substituted with the 'L" word; a kinder way to describe what has happened. But are our children really lost?

We may shed our earthly bodies but our soul energy continues to grow and thrive. To say we 'lost' our child to illness or accident is not completely accurate. We haven't really lost them. We know where they are. The souls and spirits of our children are very much alive.

Unless we have grown up in a faith or spiritually based setting, recent political correctness has taught us that we are specks of dust in a random, meaningless universe. We are reminded that God and faith have no place in public society. Our society doesn't speak about a relationship with the Divine. Until confronted with our own immeasurable loss, it is easier to give little notice to the meaning of life, our connection to the hereafter, and the changes that continue to evolve in our society.

By examining more than our day to day tweets, status updates and material goals, we can begin to bring our souls out of hiding and delve more deeply. When the invisible is made visible, we are filled with the joy in knowing there is so much more to our existence than is discussed in public arena.

As Forest Gump said, "Life is a box of chocolates. You never know what you're going to get." That box of chocolates can include a heartbreaking irreversible loss. For a parent whose child crosses over to the spiritual realm, the inability to understand this chronological mistake in the cycle of life is common. Why? We can't make sense of it. Even our faith can't answer the 'why' question well enough to make things better.

Healing, psychological, energetic and spiritual can take place over varying lengths of time. I believe our loved ones in heaven/afterlife care very deeply about our suffering and watch our transformation as time progresses. I believe they care about the future of our lives and know our potential perhaps better that we know it ourselves.

In the same way that our children are not lost, we must take care not to become lost ourselves.
-Marsha Abbott


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