Attitude Matters

Grief and attitude are two different things. It is important to distinguish between the two in order to begin taking steps toward a future after losing a child. Grief is the broken hearted place of loss, irreparable and empty. Attitude represents the way in which we take our loving memories and fill the cup of spiritual connection as we move along the altered path of our daily lives. -M.A.

Dr. Masaru Emoto has conducted thousands of experiments with water crystals showing that the mind's attitude affects how water crystallizes when frozen. In one example Dr. Emoto put water from the same source into two bottles. He wrote the words "You Fool" on a label and taped it to one of the bottles. He wrote the words 'Thank You' on a second label and taped that label to the second bottle.

Dr Emoto then froze the water from each bottle and photographed the crystals that were formed using a microscope and camera. The result was that the crystals formed from water taken from the bottle with "You Fool' on it were grotesque and misshapen. The crystals formed from water taken from the bottle with 'Thank You" written on it were beautiful and symmetrical, like snowflakes.

"We must assume it wasn't the printed words that influenced the water; it was the minds of the people who wrote and read the words. We know that because the symbols on the labels were just ink stains on a flat surface with no meaning except to people; the writer's and reader's minds created meaning from the ink marks." (1)

These experiments have now been performed many times using different sources of water and different treatments. In all circumstances, when a loving, compassionate, gentle attitude or melodious sound is focused on the water, beautiful crystals form when the water is frozen. When harsh, depressing, negative, hateful attitudes or cacophonous sounds are focused on the water, the frozen crystals are misshapen and grotesque.( see video of crystals and commentary)

Our minds influence our physical world. The journey we face after the loss of a precious child begins in a very dark place. This darkness can appear at various times throughout a day, a week, or an hour. Lighting a candle in our hearts to shed brightness into this cavern of darkness is a healing analogy synonymous with 'creating' our own beautiful crystal of thought; linking us to all that is good.

The energy of our soul communicates through vibration. Making time each day to foster positive loving thoughts will create beautiful crystals of connection and love. This is the definition of prayer/meditation.

Consider taking time to create a beautiful crystal of thought and send it to those you love both in heaven and on earth. -Marsha

(1)Craig Hogan, author of Your Eternal Self

LOSS: When The Future Seems Bleak

In the last resort it is highly improbable that there could ever be a therapy which gets rid of all difficulties. Man's challenge is to maintain health through his difficulties. ~Carl Jung

When catastrophic loss occurs, transformation follows. Sooner or later all people suffer loss, some are big, some are smaller, some are sudden, some are drawn out, some are private and some are public.

It is not the experiencing of loss that becomes the defining moment in our lives. It is how we respond to it. The quality of our remaining years will be directly related to our response.

The death of a child plunges parents and family members into a vast sea of despair. It is akin to nightmares we can't control or high fevers from illness. The blanket of darkness comes, no matter how hard we try to stop it. However threatening, we must face that blackness, and no matter how many people gather to help us, we must reconcile it within ourselves, alone.

Initially the pain is so intense we cannot reason, we often complete tasks in robotic fashion, finding ourselves hoping our child will walk through the door and we'll awaken to discover this was a horrible dream. As time progresses, the reality sets in and we try to find understanding, to no avail. But somewhere along the journey we come face to face with decisions about how we will respond.

Will we search for a spiritual connection, finding the strength to seek or will we shrivel, decaying in spirit and energy? Will we consider the broader purpose for our lives or crumble into the unfairness of such a crippling loss?

Perspective can be easier to develop if we consider the wishes of our child. What would they want for us? Suffering such agony puts the most extreme pressure upon the soul. Like a lump of coal placed under intense pressure we can emerge a diamond with light to share with the world.
 ~Marsha
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Video Of A Mother's Journey Of Grief

Experiencing the death of your child is indescribable. This mother speaks about her journey after her son died in a mountain climbing accident.  A worthwhile listen...

The stages of grief can come in ripples, waves and Tsunamis.  Cynthia Seefahrt's story is heartfelt, intuitive, open, raw, honest and describes her attitude about the future.

If you get the chance to watch the video, Space Between Breaths (link to a clip),  it is good documentary. The lives of several families mourning the deaths of their children is documented; their outlooks, their journey, their faith or lack of it, their path for the future. The cause of death was different in all families; illness, suicide, and accident. If the documentary is not available at your library, you can order it at Amazon.com. -Marsha Abbott


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